Today I had a conversation with a man
who was struggling to understand his fairly new bride. He has a genuine heart
to love her, to meet her needs and to grow their relationship in the Lord. Yet
he is constantly faced with the feeling that he is insensitive and does
everything wrong because she “has a logical argument for everything that makes
complete sense.” The problem is, logic that is based on feelings is not really
logic at all. It can result in a justification for those feelings that makes
sense, but if it is not based on fact, on truth, then it is not really logic. Feelings
change. Truth does not.
We have all been given, or possibly
given to others, the advice to “just follow your heart.” That is stupid advice!
Really. It is. Jeremiah 17:9 (NIV) says, “The heart is deceitful above all
things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?”
That is truth. Our hearts, which are more often than not controlled by
our feelings, lie to us. They lie! They tell us that our perception of a person
or situation is true because we see it that way. But our perception is skewed
by our experiences, our desires, our self-esteem, and a hundred other possible
things. We cannot trust our hearts to tell us the truth, let alone lead us in
the right path.
So why, then, does the Lord tell us
repeatedly that we are to love the Lord our God with all our heart, soul, mind
and strength? If we can’t trust our hearts, if they lie to us, how can we use
this flawed instrument to love the Lord? Well, as Proverbs 4:23 (NLT) says, we
must “Guard [our hearts] above all else, for it determines the course of [our
lives].” A heart that is well guarded can be a precious instrument for the Lord
and His service.
How do we do that? The Word of God is
a protection for our naturally evil-bent hearts. Psalm 119:11 says, “I have
hidden your Word in my heart that I might not sin against you.” In fact, I
would recommend reading all of Psalm 119. Over and over it tells us that God’s
Word is a protection, a guide, a light, a fortress for our hearts. That is
because truth, God’s truth, helps us to see and respond to the world and the
people in it in a way that is based on reality, not feelings or perception.
So often people see God’s Word as a
limiting force. But the truth is, it gives us freedom-freedom from wrong
choices, from the consequences of sin, from broken relationships, from those
things that would seek to steal our joy. Psalm 119:32 says, “I run in the path
of your commands, for you have set my heart free.” Picture that! Think about
how it would feel to live your life free of all the sin, the feelings, the
misunderstandings, the broken relationships that burden you. Get into the Word
of God. ALL of it! We can’t pick and choose what we want to believe and expect
to be free. We believe all of His Word, or we believe none of it. Read it. Know
it. Let it guard your heart. And then love Him at full speed!